A research was conducted at Stanford University. Sixteen boys and sixteen girls between ages 4 – 6 were put in a room. Each of them was given one Marshmallow (candy). The children were told that they were free to eat their Marshmallow whenever they feel like. But whosoever can hold onto his Marshmallow and not eat it till the researcher comes back after fifteen minutes, the child shall be given one more additional Marshmallow.

When the researcher came back after fifteen minutes, thirty out of the children have eaten their Marshmallow. Only two of them held onto the Marshmallow and did not eat it. The researcher fulfilled his promise and gave the two children one more Marshmallow each and let them all go.

Follow-up studies many years after showed amazing discoveries. It was discovered that the two children that did not eat their Marshmallow succeeded in life much more than the remaining thirty children put together.

What distinguished these two children from other thirty children is what is called EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.

What Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional intelligence is the ability to control impulses, the ability to delay gratification, ability to control our responses to situations and circumstances that come to our ways, ability to remain resolute in the face of challenging situation and circumstances.

When a child possesses these abilities, nothing can stop him from succeeding in life. Researches upon researches have indicated that a child has better chances of succeeding in life with Emotional intelligence than any other forms of intelligence.


For instance, if a child is weak in intelligence quotient (IQ) – academic ability, but has high Emotional Intelligence, particularly, the ability to remain resolute in the face of challenges, the child will rise up with time and develop the IQ of a genius.

This is the reason many first class students don’t turn out to become first class individuals in the real life. Emotional Intelligence is a strong indicator of a future success and a concept every good parent should be interested in.

  • When a child gives up easily on his difficult subject, it is a bad sign.

  • When a child displays negative attitude when he or she is reprimanded, it shows the child is lacking in emotional intelligence.

  • When a child has “spend it now” attitude, it is a sign of poor emotional intelligence.

  • When a child cannot tame his negative emotions, it is a bad omen.

  • When a child cannot tolerate others, it is a bad sign.

  • When a child cannot handle disappointments and challenges of life, it shows that the child is low in emotional intelligence.

A recent report in the newspaper indicated an increase in the number of children who are developing psychiatric problems. Do you know the major reason for this? It is because many children cannot handle unavoidable life challenges. It takes emotional stability to handle the disappointments and other challenges of life.

We can teach children the skills that will enable them to choose their reactions to different stimuli. Whatever happens to them is 10 percent, their reaction carries 90 percent. While they may not have control over what others may do or say to them, they do have control over one thing- their reaction!

Anger, anxiety, fear, and depression are nothing but reactions to some stimuli. It is a life-long training. The earlier they are exposed to this training, the better their chances in the reality of our world.


As important as Emotional Intelligence is, it is not being taught in our schools whereas, it has been found out that children who took part in emotional intelligence programs graduated from college at a rate 11% higher than those who did not. With emotional intelligence training, a child can develop improved mental health, social skills, and learning abilities.

This holiday period is a good time to take the children through the Emotional Intelligence program and boost their mental development.

This is why we want to partner with schools during this holiday period to teach children this all important skill – Emotional Intelligence.

Emotional learning programs, such as “MindUP” and “Roots of Empathy,” help teach children to recognize, understand and manage their emotions in order to develop empathy, make better decisions, build and maintain positive social relationships.


The good news is that Emotional Intelligence is a learnable skill. There are ways in which parents can inculcate Emotional Intelligence in the children. In my subsequent posts, I will be sharing with the parents the ways to teach children emotional intelligence. If you have not signed up for our newsletter, please ensure you do. These are not lessons you should miss.

Schools that will like to partner with us in order to teach their children this skill as part of their line-up program for the summer coaching can contact us on 08023226334. Our vision is to raise champions. Parents can also introduce us to their children’s schools.

We strongly believe that skills like emotional intelligence, Financial Intelligence, and memorization skills are more important skills children need more than the less important programs most schools lined up for the summer holiday program. Teach them the bead making skills, baking skills, makeup skill and the rest, without Emotional intelligence, they do not stand a chance in the real world. To your Success



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