We have worked with many parents who thought they know so much about their children but after attending our seminars, they realized so many things they didn’t know about their children.
As parents, we definitely have more experience than our children. We have lived in this part of existence than them.
In this discourse, I want to share with you three things we noticed most parents don’t know about their children:
3 things that you probably don’t know about your child:
1. Your child is extremely hardworking
I know this might be difficult for some parents to accept, nonetheless, it remains the fact. Your child is extremely hardworking; they are very focused, never lazy and are actually super motivated!
Whenever we are doing whatever we find enjoyable, we all usually focus all our attention to it. For most kids, this statement is true whenever they are playing games, using their phones or simply doing anything that they enjoy.
We have met kids that have ignored nature calls like going to the toilet, feeling tired or feeling hungry simply because they were doing what they enjoyed.
The key to tapping into your child’s focus is simply to allow them to enjoy what they do. PROCESS.
As it is now, many kids find learning and studying to be a chore, they hate it because they do not enjoy the process. Now imagine equipping them with strategies to help them enjoy the process of learning and help them discover that they are more than capable of achieving great results.
When you are able to help them attain this understanding, you will never need to nag about their studies again, they will feel good about themselves when they receive good grades in school and they will continue to work hard to achieve more!
But it all starts with helping them find the strategies required to help them enjoy the learning. This is what I addressed in my book, The Making of a Distinction Student. Your child can discover the effective learning process that turns learning to something they will enjoy doing by reading the book.
2. Your child wants to score ‘A’s in school too
Believe it or not, when your child does not do well in school, they get equally depressed too. But most times, parents ignore their children depressed feelings as if it doesn’t matter to them. When this happens for some time, the children get used to poor performance and become unperturbed with poor report cards.
The fact that they feel bad when they didn’t do well in their exams is an indication that they also desire to do well. What our children need at this period is not castigation or condemnation: what they need is or support and help. Imagine what if we are able to acknowledge their bad feelings about their failures to make us proud and equip them with the strategies to do well in school.
Most kids want to do well in school, and they really do. The problem is that they have no idea how to. Growing up, our teachers have always expected us to learn, and some parents will pressure their kids to study hard, but have we ever sat them to teach them and share with our kids how to learn and how to study?
The truth is that not every kid grows up to discover the learning strategy that best suits him or her. It is extremely crucial that parents and teachers begin to recognize this simple fact and start exposing kids to learning strategies before forcing any more subject syllabus down their throat.
3. Your child loves you and wants to be closer
As kids grow up and parents grow older, does the relationship grow closer or apart? Every holiday, a great number of parents send their kids to our Holiday Program in hopes to help them build the right attitudes in the children. Many of these children told us in confidence that they don’t like their parents because they (the parents) nag too much.
For us, this is clearly a communication problem. We know that behind every parent’s nagging is a good intention. Let’s face it, some parents do not know the effective ways to communicate, to take initiative and to start a conversation.
For the amount of time that we spend communicating in our lives, many would believe that we ought to be very good at it. Yet, that is far from the truth. Communication is both an art and a science. If we want to foster our family relationships, there are numerous frameworks out there for us to learn from and get better at communication from asking the right questions to including appropriate gestures. When everyone plays a part in the family to make an effort and learn to communicate better, relationships will grow closer as the years go by.
There are always two sides to a coin; we choose what we want to see and believe in life. Great parents (like great leaders) are people who can see the best in their kids and help direct them and inspire them to achieve more.
I am a Neuro-Linguistic Specialist, Success Coach, mentor, and a Cognitive Psychologist. I have chosen to use my training and expertise to help others to become the very best they are created to be through my publications, seminars, books, and videos.